What Does DTR Mean in a Text?

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DTR means "Define the Relationship." It is a term used in romantic relationships when a couple have a conversation about where their relationship is going (i.e., do they have a future as a couple and, if not, are they both okay with that?) The purpose of a DTR conversation is to gain clarity on whether both parties are on the same page regarding their connection, such as whether they are exclusively dating, continuing to see other people, moving towards a more serious relationship, or defining the relationship in some other way. This conversation can help prevent misunderstandings and ensure that both individuals have a clear understanding of where they stand with each other.

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When I write DTR, I mean this:

meaning of DTR

DTR is a conversation about where a relationship is going.

Summary of Key Points

"Define the Relationship" is the most common definition for DTR on Snapchat, WhatsApp, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok.
Definition:Define the Relationship
Guessability:guessability level 4
4: Difficult to guess
Typical Users:typical user

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An Academic Look at DTR

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DTR is classified as an initialism abbreviation, as it is pronounced one letter at a time. Other examples of initialisms are AI ("Artificial Intelligence") and EW ("Electronic Warfare").

Initialisms are different to acronyms, which are abbreviations spoken as words (e.g., GOAT ("Greatest Of All Time"), NATO ("North Atlantic Treaty Organization").

Example of DTR Used in a Text

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